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Somewhere along the line of etiquette men seem to have lost their ability to be assertive. I understand for years women have been sending men the message of, give me my space, let me decide, I am woman hear me roar or whatever. But when did we send the message of tread lightly? I'm not sure if I'm alone on this one but I feel like I still want a man to be assertive. I still want him to take charge and go for what he wants.

Even though I might not want a guy to tell me what to do I would like a guy who's gonna say "what time do you get off work, I'm gonna come get you" rather than the whole "do you wanna hang out at some point? Let me know whens good for you, do u wanna meet up or do u want me to come get you?" What?!?! In the amount of time we go through that full conversation I've already second guessed this date 3 times lol.

Men, if a woman is semi interested, (i.e. She gave you her number, picked up when you called, didn't rush you off the phone and at some point suggested you see each other again.) put your pants on and go for it. Don't half ass it, don't be all scared and shy...just do it. I really miss those days when a dude would be on the phone with me and show up to surprise me. Any hesitation I might have had was gone when I saw him in front of me.

Now please notice there is a thin line between assertive and psycho...so you must be careful. I'm talking about people that have a mutual interest for each other not a man that wants to win over a woman that has no interest. Now it's possible that the lack of assertiveness on a mans part can also be a lack of interest...but that's a whole different topic.

The point is...is it too much to ask? Am I missing something? Just do the damn thing...don't think about it so much that u end up watering it down and making it lame.