You're Such A B*tch... I Love You!!

Why Why Why....do men like it when women treat them like sh*t? Men out there...please enlighten me if you disagree. BTW...this isn't meant to be a male bashing post...it's more like a question about how men think.

Men always say they want someone that is real chill and laid back and doesnt b*tch at them over little things, etc, etc.

However, it seems if a good woman treats a dude like sh*t...he'll keep coming back for more. When we fit the description of what most men say they want, we might as well put the welcome doormat on our backs from the jump!

I know initially everyone likes the chase. There is a certain rush u get from playing hard to get or knowing someone else is doing the same. The question is why take it further than that initial chase? Once you know you're into each other...why seek the drama?

Are men masochists when it comes to dating? I've had quite a few experiences in my life where the worse I've treated a man or the more I've stopped caring, the more they came after me. On the other hand, when I've just been giving and caring...it's like "bring on the marching bands"...the dude takes it for granted.

Before I go any further I'll turn it around for a second so that I don't seem completely biased. As women...we like to be treated like a princess and be catered to... yes. We all want to live the fairytale...even the cynics want it (u know who u are). Some of us are good women and will return the favor...some JUST wanna be a princess and get what they want without giving a d*amn thing (that's a whole different blog post). So, the good ones, we like to be treated well...but I know what you're thinking...YES we are ALL guilty of liking guys with a little edge. I've never met a girl that says "i want a guy that treats me really well and is great to me ALL the time" and actually means it! Men do have to keep us guessing a little...KEYWORD "little".

Why do we like the edge? Simple, we (not the princesses) don't want to feel like we can walk all over you...we want to feel like under the right circumstances, if we play our cards right, we can get you to be on our page. This allows for that feeling of accomplishment. Things can't be too easy...or else we get suspicious (once again a whole other blog post lol). Some women get caught off guard and end up with complete jerks cuz they're serching for that edge yet end up getting more edge than they bargained for. For the most part we like a little bit of guessing and back and forth...call them games, call us crazy...but it is what it is.

Men however can't act like they're not crazy tho. A dude will be the FIRST to tell you he doesn't like drama yet he'll go around with the chick that flips out and gets all crazy in public. He will tell you he doesn't like jealous women but he'll be with the girl that stalks him AND he'll tell her about all his admirers and female friends lol. Men seem to like all the things they say they don't. A guy will go around pretending they like (pardon the rawness) women who are on their d*ck but tell a guy you're not interested anymore and he'll send u flowers for days, drive 10 hours to see you, sh*t they might keep hitting you up for years and years to come. Why? Is it the challenge?

My experience has always been the more I push someone away (like them or not) the more they keep coming back. Man-Eater 101... a friend of Curly Fries knows d*mn well it's one of the best ways to survive in the wild wild west of dating.

Ill give you a little story just cuz I'm in a good mood. A guy I dated AGES ago...great guy...I was 21, so young and feelin like I was the sh*t of all sh*ts. We met while he was visiting from the midwest one time. We hit it off...started the long distance thing...on the phone every day for hours. One time the dude drove hours to see me. Long story short. I was kind of cold (ok very cold) he bounced...but the calls continued. Shortly after I "got tired of him" and cut it off. That was almost 5 years ago now. Since then, time and time again we've talked, texted, etc (as friends but still with some interest) and there have been a few gaps in between cuz I would just flip the script and wouldn't be feelin it anymore. Needless to say...dude has felt the wrath...the REAL DEAL of my b*tchiness. Yet...he's still around!!! He still hits me up once in a while. He's still interested. Now? After all the crap I've said? After all the times I stood him up? Really? WTF? What did I do right? Did I miss a memo?

Granted...I've thought about the fact that sometimes guys realize they've let something good go and they regret it...but i can't imagine that ALL these men are THAT smart!

That said...when will it ever end?? Someone shine a light cuz this has already gone down in my book as THE thing to do (makes no sense). The best way to keep a man is to stop wanting him. Is this true?

The Mean Streets of NYC

So I’ve been somewhat following one of the random stories on the news and there’s so much going on in this oneI can’t even process it all. Here’s the story:

“The crackling burst of violence occurred after Nuñez swiped a student MetroCard, setting off an alarm in the token booth on the upper level where Abrahall was stationed, authorities said.
Abrahall radioed Maass and Farina about the fare-beater, and the two cops grabbed Nuñez and got one handcuff on him. He immediately began to struggle, and knocked them to the ground.
In the scuffle, a source said, Maass' gun fell to the platform and Nuñez grabbed it. He then stood over the two cops and fired two pointblank shots at them, a source said.
Racing from the bloodshed, Nuñez headed up an escalator, turning back to fire another shot at the wounded cops. But Abrahall was waiting at the top. Though Nuñez fired three times at the lieutenant, he missed, and Abrahall hit Nuñez four times.
Later in custody, another source said, Nuñez, who sneaked back into the United State after he was deported to his native Dominican Republic in 2001 for a 1997 drug conviction, "indicated that he was afraid of being deported. He had been deported once before and he was afraid of going back."” – New York Post

Daaaaaaamn. It is THAT deep huh. First of all there are TONS of issues to discuss with this whole situation. Here are a few of my million thoughts and concerns in no particular order:

1. Dude…a student metrocard?? Why are cops standing around in train stations looking out for people misusing student metrocards? Is it me or does it seem like there are bigger fish to fry in this city? Damn and you get arrested for that? I thought they just wrote up a ticket or something. That's news to me.

2. My friend…did you REALLY have to go there? You grabbed the cop’s gun and shot both of them then ran away WITH the gun and turned around and shot at them again THEN you shot at the cop that was waiting at the top of the stairs? What crazy action movie did you think you were a part of? And did you not ONCE think…hmmm now I’m about to be in DEEP sh!t?

3. Things must be reeeeal hard for deportees in DR cause this isn’t the first time I hear about people getting deported and sneaking back in. From what I hear once they get to DR they are basically treated like animals, they get abused, get outcasted and can’t get jobs or move on with their lives so that’s what makes them try to come back.

4. I really do hope the two cops recover…but aside from that…one of the cops dropped his gun and got shot with it?!?! What Police Academy sequel was HE a part of?? This is straight out of a wacky movie script. I wish him recovery from his wounds but recovery from the constant teasing he’ll get after that by fellow cop jocks…not so much.

5. THREE cops vs ONE guy? What was he the incredible hulk?? Gotta be all them platanos!! Lol

6. “…sneaked back into the United State…” Really? You couldn’t spell check? Well you ARE the New York Post…I mean even public school teachers don’t want their students using you for their current events assignments so I take that back…as you were.

The Curliness...

The best reflection of me is my hair. It may sound shallow but it's something that only curly haired people...(specifically curly haired Dominican women) understand.

The hair issue amongst Dominicans is a much deeper conversation. Anyone who has ever been to a really good Dominican hair salon knows that they will get your hair lookin' RIGHT... u will be at the club dancing and you better believe sweat will not be an issue. Why? Cuz old school Dominicans don't want anything BUT straight hair. Straight hair = good hair, anything else = bad hair. Therefore, they will WORK it until they have u looking like u were born with "good hair".

Growing up, my curly unruly hair was a greater definition of me than anything else. It's the one thing that has remained constant in my 26 years of life. We've been through the good and the bad (and lord knows there have been TONS of bad hair days/years... I have school pictures to prove it). I couldn't stand my hair and I used to try everything from Just For Me relaxers to lying about how much "I liked it looking crazy" but nothing worked. I only started to really love my hair about 3 years ago.

At times the hair becomes the centerpiece for some interesting encounters. The other day I'm sitting at a bar with my girls and these two guys (one white, one black) walk up behind me. The white guy starts petting me...NO LIE...petting me like I'm a puppy at the pound! So I turn around with my "wtf" face and the black guy says "oh I'm sorry excuse my friend...he doesn't know how to behave when he drinks". Then I ask the white guy if that was entertaining for him and follow that with a few other slick remarks. They both look at me like I have no right to get smart with them. UM...HELLO... you just used petting zoo etiquette to try to pick me up at the bar, sorry I'm not jumping into your pants. Lol

Aaaanyway moral of the story is that the hair gets attention...I'd change it...but why should I? Truth is just as with anything else about us, once u start to love it everyone else appreciates it too (or pets it...whatever).

How about some "Curly Fries With That"?

"Curly Fries With That" What does that even mean? As my first blog post I figured I should explain the inspiration of such an awkward yet appropriate title for this blog.

The "curly" reference is to my hair (deeper explanation will come in a future post). The "fries with that" applies to getting served that extra side dish except in this case it's a side dish of my opinions and thoughts on life in general.

That said...the topics and opinions will be as random as they come. No matter what anyone thinks...you better believe I plan to serve them up anyway!

After all, who can really say no to a side of curly fries? Enjoy!